I will show you how to shift your child away from perfectionism so they can make progress.

Perfectionism is like wearing a hat with a feather in it.

Ever try turning to look at the feather?  What happens?

Sometimes what we’re trying to do keeps you from the thing we want to do!

You can turn your head as hard as you want, as fast, as slow, but you’re never going to see the feather.

But there’s a way to achieve your goals in the same way as there’s an obvious solution to this problem.

You just need someone who can hold up a mirror.


My approach works. However…

Even under the best circumstances, we may fall short of our goals…at first.

The question is, what goals are we setting for our projects, and what constitutes success?  Ready to look at that?

I’ve used my coaching method successfully for a decade.  I continue to tweak and improve my approach, making it more efficient and more effective.

If you're ready, we have a good chance at getting you or your child where you want to go. 

My Approach

What do you know?

I always start my first lesson with someone figuring out what they know.  Not only does this give them a chance to own their successes and knowledge, but it keeps me from teaching them something they've already learned!

What do you want?

My most important role is to help you identify the problem so that we can look at ways to break it up and solve it.  While you could possibly manage the rest of the process on your own, this is the one you really need me for.

What’s your timeline?

Our approach is going to be different based on whether you have your whole life to figure this out, or a deadline next week!

Do you have the tools to solve the problem?

Have you ever tried to pound in a screw with a hammer?  It doesn't work, and it makes a mess!  Once we identify your problem, we can start talking about whether you have the tools to address it.  Maybe you need help finding them.  Or maybe they’re actually in hand, and you never knew you had them. 

Breaking up the task

I took 17 years to write my novel Motherless Child.  How did I manage to keep at it that long?  I thought of that 17 years as lots of little steps.

Even if you’re new at this particular skill, learning how to break up the task will empower you like nothing you’ve ever experienced before.  

Taking steps that are the right size

Here’s something that good task-breaker-uppers don’t always know:  You can break the steps up too small.

It took me twenty years to learn how to correctly size a task, and this is a skill I’m happy to bring to you.  Often it’s the difference between you being stuck right at the starting gate versus being nearly at the finish line.


Once we’ve gotten to the end of this process, it’s time to reassess.  Because now you’re a different person!

So we take another look at who you are…now!  And we see if the problems have changed, and if we need to determine new solutions.  Refinement.



There are three ways to work with me.  I’ve found most people prefer the Semester Approach

I think people prefer it because they don’t want to be rushed.

Of course we can get results quickly.  They’ll just be different results than if you take your time.

Making a longer-term commitment demonstrates to yourself that you take your process seriously.  It also gives us time to figure out what’s really going on.

The Semester - $1600 if paid at once, or three payments of $600.

16 Sessions.  Each weekly session includes one hour of focused work.

If you are completely serious about learning, this is the approach for you.

Sessions last as long as you want up to 60 minutes.

Depending on our schedules, we may agree to combine sessions.